Trust is not about anybody else. It is an intuitive inner “knowing” that you are connected to an inexhaustible source of love, that there is an all-embracing security, integrity, and balance to the order of things. Even when we don’t understand what is happening, or why, trust comforts us that at the right time everything will become clear.
Every child is born full of trust. Unfortunately many of us lose our connection to our trusting heart as we move through childhood to adulthood. I did. Perhaps, as happened to me, we were often criticized and began to think that everything that went wrong was our fault. Perhaps we were left alone a lot, or people forgot to feed us or pick us up from school. Perhaps our parents broke a lot of promises, or our father left our mother, or our mother died. As young children how could we know that these things were not our fault? We learned to be quick to condemn ourselves for real and imagined shortcomings. Our only recourse was to lock up our hearts and retreat to our heads, where mistrust and anxiety took hold. This is what I chose to do – hide in my head to avoid the pain in my heart.
Meditation techniques gave me a wonderful means to recover trust, find anxiety relief and recover the inner richness I had lost touch with. The awareness and healing that comes with meditation guides us back from the head to the heart, from logic to love, from anxiety to trust. Meditation techniques encourage us to dig a little deeper than the surface so that we begin to notice how often we put ourselves down. We are rewarded with renewed confidence that we can trust our intuitive knowing, those gut feelings that keep us safe from outer harm and self-destructive impulses.
When we bring awareness to loving and accepting ourselves in this moment, right now, we unearth the keys that can reopen our trusting heart.
So how can we learn to trust ourselves? There are two essential keys: awareness and love.
The main obstacle to us trusting the wisdom of our hearts is the mind. Anxiety and greed live in the mind and if we are not paying attention these negative thoughts can run rampant and create a lot of unnecessary suffering. Awareness is the master key to help us disidentify from the mind and become a witness, an observer. As you practice this technique of observing the mind you become less at the effect of anxiety-producing thoughts and more connected to, and trusting in, the wisdom of your heart.
Trust and love are intrinsically a part of each other, inextricably intertwined. You can find love through trust or you can find trust through love. It is as if love is the circumference and trust is its very center, it’s soul; love is a temple and trust is its innermost shrine. Practice being loving and accepting of yourself. Trust will follow.
The more you love and trust yourself, the more you will be able to love and trust others. The intellect has to follow the heart and follow its directions. Intelligence is intellect in tune with the heart. Let your heart be the master and the mind be its servant. This is the harmony that allows you to move forward in trust, take risks, and allow your authentic self to unfold.
4 Minute Meditation: Trust Yourself
Trust in yourself brings rich rewards. You strengthen your self-confidence, self-respect and self-esteem. Your creativity blooms and you attract love and many good things. Rather than constantly second-guessing yourself, decisions are easier with your inner compass of trust in youself to guide you.
Where do you begin to develop trust? Start with yourself. Start with the present moment where you are. We lose trust when we become disconnected from our hearts.
Bring awareness to loving and accepting yourself in this moment right now. Close your eyes and see the good in yourself. If criticisms, judgments arise, let them pass by. Whatever you focus on grows in you. That is the secret. So focus on the good.
The mind has no power of its own. At the most it can give you alternatives, but the choice finally is yours. So always lean toward the good about yourself, even if it is difficult in the beginning. The more you choose the good, the more you will naturally and spontaneously move toward that. By and by, you will no longer have to choose. As your love and acceptance of yourself deepens, so will your trust.
Trust in yourself brings anxiety relief, relaxation and a calm joy.