Grief and pain are difficult for people. Can you talk about healing pain through meditation techniques?
It is often fear that prevents us from allowing and facing pain and grief. The problem with this is that our minds create an extra layer of pain, inducing psychological pain. Mind is of the past and the future, never of the present. Our problems worsen when we think about our emotions rather than actually experiencing them. Reality is never the problem—our ideas about it are. We actually have a tremendous capacity to adjust to reality, but we cannot adjust to the future.
We cannot adjust to something that is not yet a fact. Pain exists because pleasure exists. They are complementary. Without valleys you cannot have peaks; without depth you cannot have height. If you want to avoid pain, you also have to avoid pleasure, because to have life be all pleasure and no pain is not realistic. It’s like wanting two plus two to equal five, but it never will. How do we resolve this? Accept that pain exists as a way to take you deeper into yourself, into wisdom and maturity.
Feeling your grief and pain is enormously healing, cleansing and purifying. As you sit in meditation and allow your pain and grief, over time it transforms into inner silence, peace and wisdom. Even if it seems too much you must allow it, for if you really grieve and go deeply into it, you come out completely fresh and new. Healed. Unburdened.